Reflection to Insight

Okay, so I’ll be honest in saying that I am a GIANT overthinker. When it comes to people, decisions, work, or hobbies, I tend to get overwhelmed with outcomes and possibilities. When I get trapped in a mental rut due to this, it’s sometimes hard to find my way out again.

I feel that my personal overthinking habits stem from a desire to live without regrets. So I try to overcompensate by treating life as if it’s a game of chess. God revealed to me about a year ago, that I have a tendency to shape my life around theoretical possibilities, instead of the reality that stands before me. Sometimes those theoretical paths do unfold. But often there are situations where they end up not coming to pass.

I’ve begun to understand that no matter how much I try, I can’t account for every outcome. Mistakes will be made now and again.

We can do our best to walk in love for God, our fellow man, and ourselves. We can choose to control that which we have control of, and not focus on controlling the things we can’t. By doing so, I believe we will find life to be more fulfilling and healthy.

Sometimes though, even after doing the right or most loving thing, we can’t escape problems that materialize. When this happens, it’s good to extend grace to ourselves as well as others. Overthinking and strategizing can only get us so far. When circumstances don’t go as we wish they would’ve, it’s so much more freeing to just let go and accept the situation for what it is. We can learn some valuable lessons and move forward with a newfound wisdom .

I can say with confidence, that my relationship with Jesus has been a pivotal turning point in my mental health. Struggles that were bothersome in high school became less intense during my college years. Things I found difficult in college have become less intense more recently. I am very grateful to Him for this, and I want to encourage anyone else seeking healing to rely on the Lord. I promise that He does come through for us when we trust in Him.

When I’m trying to stop myself from ruminating, it also helps to talk with someone I’m close to. Someone who can see my situation, hear me out, and offer sound advice. Normally after listening to their advice, I’m able to see things more pragmatically. This can then help me to move on from a matter, or make a decision if that is necessary.

It may take a long time to consistently operate in a peaceful nonchalance. But even if it does, I will continue to work towards that state of mind and heart. If you’re an overthinker too, I hope something in this post was able to help you. I know this kind of struggle is undoubtedly overwhelming. But please know that you aren’t alone, and relief can be found. A healthier way is achievable.

I think Elizabeth George is onto something. By focusing on what is real instead of unreal, we might save ourselves a lot of stress and trouble. We may be able to walk in a greater state of joy.